Wednesday, January 24, 2018

Ek Chotisi Extraordinary Love Story

Jan 25th, 2018

The most amazing love story I have seen, experienced, and cherish daily is that of an incredible couple who not only survived life's challenges but did so with zest and style!
My amazing parents!
Today, it is 52 years since my dad had his accident that lead to his left hand amputation. I've never seen my dad with two hands but he has always been a complete person for me. When I think of all that he and mom have accomplished and done for us children and so many others, I can only feel pride, love and a ton of gratitude!
A few pictures I have of him with both his hands; For the rest of their lives, my mom has been his second hand and continues to be so...

Here are his words recollecting the time of the accident - words to learn from and live by:
"I can recall the moment, the shock, the 'unrealistic hope' that my injuries would be minor ( I was wearing a full hand jerkins which covered my hand hiding the extent of injuries), the help of a nearby truck which extricated me from the capsized jeep, the ride in the truck's cab to hospital etc. etc. Mr P. Krishnamoorthy, a very senior officer was with me , thankfully unhurt.
My son Santosh was a 8-1/2 month baby & daughter Shanti under 1 month's incubation. Sundari was little less than 21 at that time. Those were days when communications could reach only via Railway phones or telegrams. We chose to inform by letters written by friends to Bombay & Tiruchi. Then started my long journey from BNDM to Chakradharpur the next day, to Calcutta the day after etc. It culminated with my left arm being amputated on 22nd February.
When I recall those days & the subsequent, days, years, decades I am able to realize the support of the entire family, the help from a host of friends ( who took care of all requirements of Sundari & Santosh), the grace of the Lord for which I shall ever remain immensely grateful.
Also to my many preceptors who taught me that no calamity is totally bad nor its effects permanent.
Life has given me an opportunity to be part of the alleviation to human suffering of one form ......"

After overcoming so many challenges through the early years together, their steadfast commitment and strength to each other continues to amaze. These past six months has brought an additional ripple to their otherwise zesty golden years. I feel so proud to see how they have weathered this cancerous storm as well, and have come out victorious, hand in hand. Kudos to my amazing mom who is an epitome of strength and compassion, and my determined dad who has carried himself with grace and courage through these tough times.  We're so proud of you Amma & Appa. 

Jeena Isi Ka Naam Hai....

Wishing you health and well'th always... We are because you are.... 

Monday, November 20, 2017

The Magnificence of Gratitude!

November 20, 2017

It's been an "interesting" year. Ok, who am I kidding, it's been a challenging year!  For too many near and dear ones, and for too many I don't even know personally across the world. And guess what, it continues to be so.  Although I could lament about where the world is heading, I have to be honest that the "attached and selfish" soul within, aches more for those close to me and for all the curveballs they're facing.  For someone who is constantly harping about Gratitude, it's been a testing time.  

It's been time to put words into action and to apply one's ideologies to this ever-evolving reality show of life! It's been conflicting and confusing to reconcile the emotional-rational balance sheet. It's been challenging to process all this and it certainly has been challenging to stay on the course of Gratitude.

However, as with night and day, darkness and light, absence and presence, the challenges have also revealed so much positivity and brilliance of the human spirit, compassion, resilience, and magnanimity. Every challenge has revealed the best of the best in so many people I know: 

  • indomitable strength and resolve; physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual
  • infinite generosity with time, kindness, prayer, presence, and friendship
  • undeterred and single-minded focus on solutions and acceptance
  • introspection and acknowledgement of the value of human connections,  &
  • self-awareness to accept every moment with grace and gratitude, and making the most of it.

How incredible it is to be surrounded by so much positive energy and knowing that for every problem you're facing, there are so many who are willing and able to walk with you, infusing laughter along the way. And how important it is for us to do our part in sharing our energy and positivity to those around us. It doesn't take much, and can mean the world for someone. I am convinced that the collective energy of all will help carry those who are in need and further solidify this amazing human spirit and universal connectedness.

So now with every new situation that comes our way, how about we say: Bring it on!! We have an army right here with us - to make this journey not just passable but enjoyable! Perhaps if we didn't face the difficult times, we wouldn't evolve into our finest possible selves. And for that, I am so so grateful.  

Sirf ik rang se tasveer hoti kahin,
Gham nahi toh khushi ki keemat nahi
Dhoop chaaon hain dono to dilkash jahaan
Kya shikaayat karein, fursat kahaan

Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundanceEckhart Tolle

Monday, December 12, 2016

Royal (k)now-how!

आजकल भागमभाग के कश्मकश में,
कुछ पल सुकून के,
बहुत कुछ सिखा जाते हैं।

बेपरवाह और खुलकर, खिखिलाकर हंसना,
कुछ पल के लिए ही,
बहुत कुछ दिखा जाते हैं

रोज़मर्रे की दौड़ में, आगे-पीछे की सोच में,
व्यर्थ और बेमतलब तेज़ रफ़्तार के विचार,
बहुत कुछ भुला जाते हैं।

कभी गुज़रे पलों की निरर्थक जांच,
कभी आने वाले पलों की अर्थहीन चिंता,
इस एक पल को मिटा जाते हैं।

आखिर ऐ मन, तू चाहता क्या है?
शांति? ख़ुशी? प्यार? या कुछ और?
और सोचने की बात ये है,
कि ये सब तू चाहता - कब है?
गुजरे पलों में? या
आने वाले पलों में?
या अब - इस एक पल में।

कल के पन्नो को मैं पढ़ तो सकती हूँ,
पर बदल नहीं सकती,
और आने वाले कल की कोरे पन्नो में,
मैं न तो लिख सकती हूँ, न जी सकती।

फिर भी मैं बहुत कुछ कर सकती हूँ,
शांति, ख़ुशी, प्यार, और बहुत कुछ पा सकती हूँ
क्योंकि मेरे पास ये एक पल है,
आशापूर्ण, अनमोल, असीमित।

कल और कल के बीच,
मेरे पास आज है।

Thursday, February 19, 2015

The Queen of all Queens!!

February 19, 2015

Feeling immense joy to have been born to the Queen of all Queens!!

To the one who created my first heart beat and, who can understand the nuances of each of my heartbeats to the day;
To the one who held me close and safe, cared for my every possible need and, who does the same and more for my little girls every step of the way;
To the one who knows nothing else than to put others before herself, but who has taught me the value of valuing myself also,
To the one who savors each moment, the epitome of patience and mindfulness, a presence in my life like no other,
Happy Birthday to the Queen of all Queens ~ Love you Amma!

My Mom
The wisest, the kindest, and most giving person I know
She's wise on matters that mean the most,
She's kind to every fault and weakness,
She gives and gives whatever she can, whenever she can, wherever she can, however she can..

My Mom
The strongest, calmest, and most forgiving person I know
She's strong in situations of turmoil,
She's calm when things are beyond control,
She's forgives every single person in minutes without judgment, no questions asked.

My Mom
The most patient, friendly, and childlike person I know
She's patient even when we don't deserve it,
She befriends all with a smile and such warmth,
She revels in childlike laughter and excitement and finds joy in small things.

My Mom
The most talented, humble, and honest person I know
She has talents unlimited, those that even she is unaware of,
She is humble even when she is right which is almost always,
She is honest in every relationship, participating with an open heart.

My Mom
My friend, My inspiration, My strength, My compass.
You are one amazing role model...
We are..because you are...

Thursday, January 22, 2015

Proud to run a like a girl! Actually fly like a queen!

Jan 22nd, 2015

So my darling princesses, today's post is special and super important!  I came across this video today  and just had to share. This video instantly got my focused attention, annoyed me immensely at the stereotypes that it contained, and at the same time gave me a sense of relief and reassurance at the message it carried.

I'm glad I watched it with you again and I hope you heard the message loud and clear!!!

Although I would never wish this for you, but the truth is that you will often hear such phrases:
*dont act like a girl
*dont cry like a girl
*dont run like a girl
*dont do this like a girl
*dont do that like a girl..

When someone says that to you - stand tall and proud and say -
"Well, you know what?  I am a girl and I'm proud of it ! And no - I am not doing such and such because I am a girl but because it's my choice!!

Also when it comes to either physical abilities or emotional responses or intellectual decisions, you will be what you choose to be and it has nothing to do with gender!!!! All girls don't necessarily respond to the same stimuli in the same way just because they are girls - we are all tuned differently and nothing can limit us and our growth but our own thinking. This is not to say that you have to try and be like anyone else but be proud and comfortable with who you are and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There are some amazing role models out there who totally dispel gender misconceptions and stereotypes. Be the best you can in whatever you choose!! There's nothing you cant do if you set your mind to it.

A's reaction to the video:
If someone tells you that you run like a girl or you throw like a girl, you shouldn't care because you are a girl and you should be proud of who you are.

S's reaction to the video:
I learnt that girls can do anything boys can do and that boys can do anything that girls can do. If someone says I'm acting like a girl - I'm going say that I am a girl and wont let it bother me because I am me!

J's reaction to video:
I believe that girls can do anything they want and being a girl is not a bad thing one bit - in fact it's pretty cool. Proud to be a gal!

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

The universe conspires.....

Jan 20th, 2015

After writing about seemingly IMPOSSIBLE tasks and goals yesterday, I found so many similar messages waiting to greet me today. Wow..

From my sister:
The probability of the impossible....It is possible to understand the impossible....
What any man may consider impossible, is merely the mind giving up on two counts ---- not comprehending how it works and not dreaming how it can manifest.
The probability of that impossible thought actually manifesting is 100%---- because the very presence of the thought some way made it possible for it to manifest.
What you define, you constrain.
Knowing everything 'about' me is probably impossible to you, because you can only know to the extent you are capable of understanding.
But knowing me is the easiest.
If your definition of me is forgiveness, you can experience me when you learn to forgive.
If your definition of me is love, you can experience me when you learn to love.
When your definition of me is 'non-existent', you deprive yourself of experiencing me.
By merely adding the possibility of my existence to your definition of me, you have created the possibility of experiencing me.
(Here me denotes the Supreme power / Supreme source / God as one may wish to call!)
The probability of the impossible is always 1.

Sunday, January 18, 2015

Impossible? Bah!

Jan 18th, 2015

I remember seeing this quote painted outside a building in Mumbai many years ago. Then, I again came across this saying in a book and some website. A few years ago, his Royal Highness, my husband, suggested this quote to his company who promptly printed shirts carrying this message, and one that he proudly owns and wears.
The most admirable thing is that he not only wears this literally but he lives the essence of these words inside and out. While we all read many different quotes daily that leave an impact or feel so good to read, it feels even better when you see someone live by those words on a day to day basis. I feel immensely proud to share my life with one such person who has shown me time and again that nothing, and I really mean nothing - can come in the way of doing what you set your mind to do.

Determined, focused, hard-working, optimistic, and a positive go-getter - that's my husband! His unassuming nature, humble and quiet persona, driven pursuit, persistent and habitual efforts to accomplishing his goals, and his undemanding, self-reliant, and self-confident attitude is admirable and inspirational. Today, he ran his 4th marathon - a special one in Mumbai, which he completed in remarkable time in spite an injury. While of course  health is and should be prime priority, I also think it is such a learning experience to see someone not use a temporary roadblock as an excuse to create a complete detour in a journey or abandon the journey completely. A true role model!!

Proud of you my rockstar, my motivator, my idol!
Just had to share this poem with you by Shri Harvanshrai Bachchan....
Enjoy the narration by Big B..

Lahron se darkar nauka kabhi paar nahi hoti
koshish karne walon ki kabhi haar nahi hoti

nanhi chinti jab dana lekar chalti hai,

chadhti deewaron par sau baar fisalti hai,
man ka vishwas ragon me saahas bharta hai,
chadhkar girna, girkar chadhna, na akharta hai,
mehnat uski bekar har baar nahi hoti,
mehnat karne walo ki kabhi haar nahi hoti,

dubkiyan sindhu me gotakhor lagata hai
ja ja kar khali haath laut kar ata hai,
mile na sehaj moti gehare pani me,
badhta duuna vishwas is hairani me,
muthi uski khaali har baar nahi hoti,
koshish karne walon ki kabhi haar nahi hoti,

asaflta ek chunauti hai, sweekar karo,

kya kami reh gayi, dekho aur sudhar karo,
jab tak safal na ho chain ki neend ko tyago tum,
sangharsh ka maidan mat chod kar bhago tum,
kuch kiye bina jai jai kaar nahi hoti,
koshish karne walon ki kabhi haar nahi hoti.